What do you do when there is a 3rd party in your marriage? Esp when the 3rd party is a little green man who can promise hours of endless fun.
My 3rd party
I realised this long ago, because every now and then.. a new “app” will make my hubby spends hours staring into that small screen for hours and he can literally lock himself in the bedroom after dinner till bedtime, sometimes even after I’ve fallen asleep and he can continue playing in the dark. Such period can last for weeks.. till he either finishes the games or FINALLY get bored or when our newly hatched son starts to scream for attention after some failed attempts at getting his dad’s attention from the exciting game.
Don’t be mistaken, this isn’t a bitter post. If you are married already, you will agree that this is part and parcel of married life, and if it isn’t the little green man, it could well be your 46″ LED samsung TV, or the latest WII game set. If you are not married yet, good luck in discovering.
I guess Mars or Venus, we need our time alone. Time alone for me, could be a short shopping trip alone, some times, its a trip to the salon for a wash and blow ( my usual one is at Holland shopping mall, because their hair wash counter is a flat bed that you can relax during the whole process) or sometimes its a pedicure in a quiet nail salon. I guess we all have our ways to be at peace with our inner soul, which is alright, as long as we are sensitive to people around us. The problem comes when we are too engrossed in our own little amusement world, we neglect our loved ones and our duties, be it as husband or as fathers. BTW, I find it rude when one start playing games on mobile when I’m alone with them because when they do that it seems to imply: ” I’m sorry but my game is more interesting than interacting with you.” And that really bothers me a lot. Replying to SMS or answering phone calls are fine, but playing games.. sorry, you just hit the ice berg, mate.
So, what I am really saying is that its ok to indulge in self pleasures and some TLC for your soul alone. It’s not okay if you are doing it at the expense of someone feeling bad and that someone is a loved one. Something to think about?
