I often pose this question to my subordinates. I told them in everything they do, they need to first know their objectives. Then everything they do, say, should move them nearer towards their objective/goal.
Lately, a sales video reminded me that it also apply to my marriage. Or any marriage or any personal relationship actually. Now suppose my marriage objective is to stay married. Not too tough I guess. How about staying married to the same man? Now what if I say my marriage objective/goal is ” Stay married to the same man.. Happily!” Now we are talking.
How would this change the way I act, speak or behave? If that is my goal, would everything I say or do today.. contribute to achieving that goal? I guess it better be. Well..that being said, it doesn’t means that I would suddenly become a submissive wife who takes every crap my darling hubby throws my way. It means I would still have expectations, just as he would have of me. I would also expect him to carry out what I expect of him and vice versa. It doesn’t means that the next time he unleash his short temper on me, I should just forget about it to avoid conflict. Because eventually I will grow resentful if I keep doing that. And that doesn’t exactly goes well with my marriage goal.. Stay married.. probably.. Stay married to the same man.. perhaps.. Stay married to the same man, happily.. nah.. cannot possibly be happy if I become a resentful, spiteful, miserable wife.
So maybe its high time you start thinking of your marriage/relationship objective?
